How to handle your Emotions: Disappointment (Part 1)
You feel disappointed for several reasons in life, and in different positions regardless of your age, family and social class. But you need to know how to cope under such circumstances and get on the right track immediately, otherwise this feeling will get over you and lead you towards unwanted issues and make you feel even worse. Answer one question first; when things don’t go the right way and you feel upset with disappointment, who do you turn to? Do you go to your mother, father, sister, brother or a close friend and express how devastated you are? This is one of the important initial steps you often need to take in order to overcome this feeling. Anyhow, remember that disappointment is a part of life and whether you like it or not, many people, issues and factors in life will head you to experience in life, so be brave and just face it. The point is, although every once in a while, disappointment appears before you, you have the power to handle it with dignity and in a rational manner and at the end of the day, this is what really counts. What is more, it all depends on how you define it for yourself. Generally, disappointment denotes a feeling of dissatisfaction that people experience when things do not go as planned. It is a completely subjective emotion, and people differ in how they experience it. Some individuals have a very low threshold for disappointment.
Mistakes are opportunities to learn and that they should not only be accepted but expected as a normal part of growing up. While you are in the middle of experiencing disappointment for one reason or another, remember times when you or others failed at first but persevered, only to get better and stronger. You can start again and this time you will consider diverse factors before taking any practical steps so in this way the possibility of disappointment reduces to a high extent. Instead of just saying; “well, that’s not fair!” think and do something, even though you could be right. Once you communicate with others and make a close contact with them, you discover that life is a series of wonderful and heartbreaking events and so you are not the only person who is going through hard times.
1. Create a New Vision: If for instance you were longing to become a member in a team and you were not selected, activate your mind in a positively creative manner. Maybe this was not the best plan for you right now and later on you discover the ultimate truth behind it and even feel grateful. So keep the big picture in mind. You never know, there can always be a better plan on the way.
2. Try a New Direction: Now that you feel disappointed in one area, it is actually the best time to refresh and think about other areas and try them, because you might find out that they fit in better with your attitude or overall situation, at least for the time being.
3. Consider the Valuable Experience: You tried hard to achieve a goal, but then for diverse reasons, you did not reach the goal you had in mind. It’s tough, hard and you feel disappointed and bitter about it. But then again, what about the precious experience you have earned and all the subtle lessons and points you have discovered along the way. This is the least you have gained, which is indeed priceless no matter what.
to be continued…
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